Archive for July, 2011

Waiting to hear about the job…Your To-Do List

July 29, 2011


  1. Keep breathing.  The alternative does nothing to enhance your chance of getting an offer.
  2. Take notes.  What questions are on your mind?  This might include topics that didn’t get addressed during the interview. Keep this list near the telephone for if/when they call.
  3. Work on your new Plan B.  Yes, this means trolling for new contacts and opportunities.  It keeps you busy, it reminds you that there’s always another possibility out there. It’s never a waste of time.
  4. Reach out to a colleague and schedule a lunch date.
  5. Indulge yourself – start drafting a letter of resignation.  This is fun!
  1. Obsess about the interview – what you wore, what might have been better, for example.  It’s over.
  2. Get angry about why you might be rejected.  Not worth it – you don’t have any information.
  3. Kick yourself.  Shoulda done this or that.
  4. Feel stuck in your current job.  Change will happen, you will escape, and the more work you put in, the quicker it will happen.
  5. Eat all the ice cream.  This has not been proven to enhance your chances of getting the offer.

How many friends do you have?

July 20, 2011

The folks at WordPress have asked us to ponder how many friends we have.

I  find this question important as a career counselor.  The answer becomes a tool for maintaining rapport and empathy with another person.

With a person who seems to have many friends, I assume that he or she also wants many interests, many tasks in a day’s work.  Keep it interesting!  Stimulating!

With a person of a few friends of many years’ duration, I can guess that loyalty and autonomy are desired workplace conditions. Here’s someone who cries out for trust, depth, and self-structuring at work.

I’m sometimes wrong about these assumptions, but not often.  These connections come from the characteristics of extraverts and introverts, from the Jung-based Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

A few friends or many?   That depends on who you are.

Reflections on July 4

July 6, 2011

Of the benefits bestowed on our nation over two hundred years ago, the thing I’ve come to value the most is the pursuit of happiness.

We know that this doesn’t mean the right to be handed happiness.  Sorry, it’s not an entitlement program.

Remember, the pursuit of happiness is an action.  Most of us will spend a lifetime on the path to happiness.

You don’t like your job?  You’re not going to be handed a new one, but you are entitled to study, prepare, plan and dream of one that is more compatible.  You are entitled to declare your desire for change and take the necessary steps.

You don’t like feeling behind the times?  Your community college is right around the corner and an online course is as near as your desk.

The pursuit of happiness is not easy, not cheap, not guaranteed to be successful.  Being mired in mediocrity isn’t so great, either.

Go for it – you have the constitutional right.